This probably sounds like a broken record but can a girl have a platonic/non-romantic relationship with a guy?
Some of you might immediately think of When Harry Met Sally or that Ashton Kutcher/Amanda Peet flick-which-I-can't-recall-at-the-moment and think "(b)ut they still ended up together, didn't they?"
True, but remember that's Hollywood, a place where fantasies (even the wildest ones) can come true. The same place where no-brainers like Paris Hilton and Posh can become A-list celebrities..but let's not go there..
I'm thinking more of the real world. Home to be exact. Why are people quick to assume that just because I'm having coffee with a single male friend, it's either we should get together, OR if we are 'already' together then the next step would be for us to get married? Try explaining to them that we are just friends and the usual reaction tend to be (a) a lengthy disapproving lecture about not getting younger, not being choosy, people's perception blah blah blah, or (b) a look of horror 'cause the idea of 'just being friends' is an alien concept or doesn't exist in their dictionary.
As backward as their way of thinking may seem - I mean most of our elders didn't have the luxury of going through the 'just being friends' stage prior to tying the knot - there is perhaps some (and I'm talking about a pinch here) grain of truth behind their reasoning. Not everyone can maintain that 'just being friends' concept and it usually ends in the end of a friendship or heartbreak i.e. unrequited love..I should know..though it didn't result in any of the above which I'd just mentioned.
So I can't blame them for being conservative but there are times when it's just pointless to explain myself to them. It'll probably reflect badly on me but I'd like to think that they'd eventually get tired of lecturing a stubborn ol' yet sexy mule and move onto the next victim...though I predict this'll only happen when pigs grow wings and start flying!
Having said all that, it's not a crime to 'just being friends' with a guy..it's got nothing to do with any commitment phobia on may part..it's more to do with knowing that I can rely/trust this person..one who can offer me the point of view from the often frustrating and confusing male state of mind. And if girl and guy are destined to be together (eventually), then so be it..who are we to argue with fate right?
p/s: That Ashton Kutcher movie is called A Lot Like Love..courtesy of Google.
Some of you might immediately think of When Harry Met Sally or that Ashton Kutcher/Amanda Peet flick-which-I-can't-recall-at-the-moment and think "(b)ut they still ended up together, didn't they?"
True, but remember that's Hollywood, a place where fantasies (even the wildest ones) can come true. The same place where no-brainers like Paris Hilton and Posh can become A-list celebrities..but let's not go there..
I'm thinking more of the real world. Home to be exact. Why are people quick to assume that just because I'm having coffee with a single male friend, it's either we should get together, OR if we are 'already' together then the next step would be for us to get married? Try explaining to them that we are just friends and the usual reaction tend to be (a) a lengthy disapproving lecture about not getting younger, not being choosy, people's perception blah blah blah, or (b) a look of horror 'cause the idea of 'just being friends' is an alien concept or doesn't exist in their dictionary.
As backward as their way of thinking may seem - I mean most of our elders didn't have the luxury of going through the 'just being friends' stage prior to tying the knot - there is perhaps some (and I'm talking about a pinch here) grain of truth behind their reasoning. Not everyone can maintain that 'just being friends' concept and it usually ends in the end of a friendship or heartbreak i.e. unrequited love..I should know..though it didn't result in any of the above which I'd just mentioned.
So I can't blame them for being conservative but there are times when it's just pointless to explain myself to them. It'll probably reflect badly on me but I'd like to think that they'd eventually get tired of lecturing a stubborn ol' yet sexy mule and move onto the next victim...though I predict this'll only happen when pigs grow wings and start flying!
Having said all that, it's not a crime to 'just being friends' with a guy..it's got nothing to do with any commitment phobia on may part..it's more to do with knowing that I can rely/trust this person..one who can offer me the point of view from the often frustrating and confusing male state of mind. And if girl and guy are destined to be together (eventually), then so be it..who are we to argue with fate right?
p/s: That Ashton Kutcher movie is called A Lot Like Love..courtesy of Google.
2 comments:
Medulla..the part about having coffee was just an example where assumptions are often made about so-and-so must be going out with this-and-that..
Oh... gotcha!
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